Writers need understanding

Hey, Writer, Do Your Family and Friends Understand You?

By DiAnn Mills @DiAnnMills

Writers long for family and friends to understand them.

This afternoon, I peered out my office window and observed my neighbors laughing and talking. Longing washed over me, and I considered joining them—like a real person with a real neighborly smile, great attitude, understanding, and able to contribute to the conversation. Just that quickly, my thoughts swept back to the mess I’d left my heroine in, and I couldn’t leave her facing danger alone.

A few hours later, my quirky personality struck me as hilarious. I could have shared a delightful time with my neighbors, but I doubt if I’d spoken a word about what was going on in my head. I care about these sweet people but would any of them understand how my brain works? Please note, other people are always more important than we are, but it helps when someone speaks our language.

I’ve compiled 10 questions you can pose to your writerly friends, and they will appreciate your sincere efforts. I’ve even included a few ways to help writers form the best responses.

1. What kind of project are you working on?

Writer: Respond in one sentence. Make it a powerful hook. If the listener wants more information, he/she will ask.

2. What was the first book you read?

Writer: This is not a grocery list answer.

3. What helped you decide to become a writer?

Writer: Make it brief and filled with your passion for communicating through the written word.

4. What do you like the most about writing?

Writer: Be honest. We don’t have to enjoy every single minute.

5. What do you dislike about the writing life?

Writer: Be honest. The person may be considering writing.

6. When did you decide you wanted to be a writer?

Writer: Be concise and share your heart.

7. If you didn’t write, what career would interest you?

Writer: This is an opportunity to be open and candid with the listener.

8. How long does it take you to write and complete a book?

Writer: Many people do not know the time required, and not all writers work at the same pace.

9. Is a person born with the ability to write, or does it take time?

Writer: This is an opportunity to give your publishing journey. Be concise.

10.Where do you get your ideas?

Writer: While it is tempting to say, “Everywhere.” I encourage you to give a few brief examples.

A few years ago, a dear friend introduced me as her bizarre and eccentric friend. I loved it! Who wants to be normal? Not everyone has our same interests, and I encourage you to reach out to others with a genuine interest in what interests them.

Are you a creative person who needs understanding? Can you offer additional tips?